tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6835022619998310349.post8849379082803543919..comments2023-09-09T09:33:05.892-06:00Comments on Betcha Didn't See This Coming: What's in a name?Tammy Bethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04110396499164449495noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6835022619998310349.post-80651532357777392462010-08-10T21:14:38.724-05:002010-08-10T21:14:38.724-05:00Previous comment deleted because it was inadverten...Previous comment deleted because it was inadvertently done through the account associated with my baseball blog - which is still written under my former identity which I prefer to keep at arms length from my real identity.Tammy Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04110396499164449495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6835022619998310349.post-62969578637207934952010-07-20T23:21:36.153-05:002010-07-20T23:21:36.153-05:00Mm, I prefer Laura to Tammy, but follow your heart...Mm, I prefer Laura to Tammy, but follow your heart: don't even consider what anybody else thinks.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04763803495997388789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6835022619998310349.post-24997372218381160532010-07-19T17:28:54.058-05:002010-07-19T17:28:54.058-05:00oh honey don't misunderstand, this bit of inde...oh honey don't misunderstand, this bit of indecision has nothing to do with the drama at home(other than my passing remark about having enough drama) - all I was saying was that since she doesn't want it changed at all, I can't really take her thought on which one is better into consideration.<br /><br />I'm trying not to give anyone the impression that she's being unfair to me here - I don't think that is true. with all due respect to your advice.<br /><br />The easy way out would be to just leave without being sure I've done everything I could to give it a fair chance. I fully admit there's an obvious divide between what I wish would happen (a "girlfriends" relationship - not in the lesbian sense) and what is likely to happen (that she will never be able to adjust) and perhaps I'm overcompensating, but I'll sleep better at night if I know she had a fair chance to come to terms.<br /><br />If I've waited almost 40 years to do this, i can afford to give her six months or so to see that I am not too callous about it.<br /><br />If that, in someone else's opinion, makes me more generous than she's being - I can live with that, it's better than the reverse.<br /><br />The worst that can happen is that I die suddenly in a car wreck or something before the first of the year and the dream goes unrealized. But even then, I'd be at peace.<br /><br />I prefer no ill-will either way. Maybe that makes me a wuss but I am what I am.Tammy Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04110396499164449495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6835022619998310349.post-75870332283144091752010-07-19T15:00:52.889-05:002010-07-19T15:00:52.889-05:00I can pretend you named yourself after me (Tamar)!...I can pretend you named yourself after me (Tamar)! ;)<br /><br />Use the name that makes you happiest..after all this time, for god's sake don't just *settle* for anything. <br /><br />And sweetie...you must stop living your life based on the dictates of someone who wants to control you. It won't help her and it sure as heck won't help you. She needs to learn to accept the truth and she can't and *won't* as long as you give in to her demands. If you are a woman, pretending to be a man is just cruel and eventually you may end up hating her for making you be that person again. <br /><br />So...if you love the name Tammy...be Tammy. You get one life and you are not getting younger...every wasted moment you can not get back. Every moment playing this hurtful game is one less where your life is yours.LadyTraycehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07050276766565958522noreply@blogger.com